Maybe it sounds strange to some, but when I think of trying to build community locally, I am afraid about a lot of things. I am afraid I won’t know what to say when I first meet someone (which is actually true…I’m notoriously horrible at making small talk and asking questions!) I am afraid people won’t like me once they really get to know me. I am afraid I won’t be able to keep up the energy required to sustain friendship. I am afraid our kids or our husbands won’t like each other. I’m afraid I will be judged for the choices I have made.
You get the idea…
Even though I have these fears, I can’t let them stop me from trying. In this age of digital everything where even “friendship” takes place in a virtual online reality, I must take the steps to try and forge real life community. I need flesh and blood friends, women who will sit with me over a cup of steaming hot tea and look into my eyes and ask me how I’m really doing. And I want to be able to do the same for them. We need each other. We were meant for real, messy, human relationships.
Am I still afraid? Yes, but I have to take that next step and reach out. Because I know I’m not the only one who has these fears. And I know that in the end, it will be worth it.